October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

That we need to dedicate a month to promoting awareness of this issue at all is tragic but to ignore it is to look away from the thousands who are abused and need help.

I am familiar with domestic violence. Fortunately, I’m not a victim but having seen close friends and loved ones struggle through the cycle of abuse has been difficult and frustrating. Watching those friends break free is uplifting, and the crushing disappointment of being able to do nothing as some go back is beyond description.

You, too, may know that pain and have seen similar challenges, abuse, pain and struggle in your loved ones’ lives. Sometimes you help and those loved ones are able to free themselves the first time, sometimes it takes a few tries.

Although October is almost over, domestic violence is a problem that continues.

Whether it be rooted in a past trauma or brought on by normal stressors in life, domestic violence is never OK.

If you are a victim, seek help. Talk to a friend, seek assistance at a shelter, call a crisis line – take action to protect yourself and your family members.

If you’re the one feeling out-of-control with your anger, or angry all the time, and you’re concerned about losing control or already have – then separate yourself from your loved ones and find someone YOU can talk to and work through that anger.

Above all, try and recognize the situation you are in and do what you can to change it for the better. None of us wants to hurt our loved ones or be hurt; let’s stop making excuses and take action.

Veterans in need of immediate assistance can call the crisis line at 1-800-273-8255, press 1 or visit the Veterans Crisis Line website. Family members can also call to seek help for their Veteran family member/loved one.

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Published on Oct. 31, 2013

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  1. Stephen Cobb November 7, 2013 at 3:25 pm

    Excellent call to year-round action.

    Oddly enough, October is also National Cyber Security Awareness Month. Seeing the connection, one of my colleagues in security, Lysa Myers, has just published a blog post aimed at helping domestic violence victims protect their digital privacy, a serious challenge in our increasingly connected society.


    If there are points we missed we would appreciated input as we are eager to help in any way we can.

  2. Jerome November 2, 2013 at 2:21 pm

    Bieng lied to by social sevice case manager is violence with the VA system. Have benifits due not filed for by cars manager is violence trying to sign veterans up thrum patriots angels for a cost of $500 to get our free va health care is vileonence ignoreingbthevobivious Hipparchus rules is violence by va employees
    Haveing a case worker who does not have your best interest at heart is violence….

  3. Phyllis Hain November 1, 2013 at 3:13 pm

    Please read Diamond in the Dark, Leaving the Shadow of Abuse, by Phyllis hain and published by Bancroft Press. It is one of the best books for education and discussion on Domestic Abuse, Child Abuse, and Child Sexual Abuse. It is a true autobiography, that reads like a novel and murder mystery combined.

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