Many people wrongfully believe Veterans only seek out therapy because they struggle with mental health issues due to combat exposure. This is an assumption in the general public, and as a clinical psychologist and former Marine, I know that it just isn’t true.

While there are Veterans for which this is the case, many of the Veterans I see in my practice are dealing with major depression or anxiety due to other life challenges.

These issues may range from relationship and marriage problems to difficulty transitioning to civilian life, as well as problems surrounding money and work. Additionally, many of the Veterans have indeed experienced trauma, but it is often due to childhood and family trauma.

No matter the source of their trauma, I believe therapy can help Veterans start to heal.

Therapy can start the path to healing

The first and most important benefit of therapy is that they have a place to vent – a place to tell their story. There is nothing more powerful for healing than sharing our stories. It helps Veterans find the root cause of their problem while finding solutions to address those challenges.

Therapy helps Veterans better understand their inherent strengths and use those strengths to improve their lives. Therapy also helps Veterans see that going to therapy does not mean we are “weak,” but instead that we are brave for facing our challenges head on.

When I tell Veterans that therapy is harder than any training they ever had, suddenly they want to take you up on the challenge. Funny how that works.

Ongoing stigma holds some Veterans back

In addition to the perception that they will be seen as weak, one of the greatest barriers Veterans face in receiving mental health care is the ongoing stigma around getting therapy.

Friends and relatives can be supportive.

Veterans often express concern over labels, such as “crazy” and “mental health patients,” as well as military attitudes (such as, “suck it up”) fostering feelings of weakness and failure.

Unfortunately, this leads to many Veterans assuming they are not “sick enough” to get therapy because their situation is “not that bad.”

Support of family members and friends can be invaluable

One of the greatest support systems many Veterans have is their family members and loved ones, including fellow Veterans.

Simply listening without judgment is one way to help a Veteran loved one. Another way friends and relatives can be supportive is to be on the lookout for common signs that the Veteran is dealing with depression or anxiety.

These include withdrawing socially, constant irritability, increased sleep or sleep deficits, heavy substance use or abuse, feeling constantly on edge, or having anger outbursts even regarding minor issues.

Lastly, I think it is important that family and loved ones continue to encourage the Veteran to seek help, even if that means simply finding a support group with other Veterans.

One of the things I have been most impressed with is that in the last several years, there have been a growing number of groups, organizations and companies that support Veterans. Families should take the time to learn about these resources and not be afraid to suggest them.

Tools and coping mechanisms for Veterans

Ultimately, though, it is the Veteran’s decision to seek out ways to feel better.

One of the best tools that Veterans can use to support their mental health is to find ways to be around other Veterans. While it is not therapy, it does provide Veterans with a sense of purpose they often lack after separating from the service.

Being around other Veterans also helps give them that crucial sense of camaraderie that they experienced while in the service.

Veterans can also find support from non-military people and organizations. I’ve come across so many individuals who were not in the service but have such a great passion for helping Veterans. Usually, they have family members who are/were in the military or come from families with a long line of military service.

Veterans can create their own playbook of strategies

The ultimate objective is for Veterans to find a place to share their story. Maybe this comes in the form of speaking at a local school or church. Perhaps it means sharing your own challenges with mental health. We never know who we are inspiring with our story.

I think one of the best ways to overcome our own struggles is to help others.

Another tool is, simply, therapy. Veterans need to get past the stigma that therapy is for the “weak.” For me, therapy is not just about overcoming PTSD, depression or anxiety symptoms. For me, therapy is about all of those things and also figuring out what “makes you tick.”

With this information, Veterans can then create their own playbook of strategies that will help them cope with the world and create a meaningful life.

Find ways to help a Veteran in crisis and prevent Veteran suicide at If you’re going through a tough time and need support, the Veterans Crisis Line is available anytime, day or night.

You can even call if you’re concerned about a fellow Veteran. Call 1-800-273-8255 and Press 1, chat online, or text 838255.

Dr. Carlos Garcia is the owner of Tampa Counseling and Wellness. There, he treats Veterans with depression, anxiety, PTSD and other transition issues. He serves on the board of directors of Veterans Counseling Veterans, a non-profit organization that works to provide Veterans with the mental health services they need. He served in the U.S. Marine Corps for eight years.

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Published on May. 28, 2021

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  1. Brett E Grenvall June 6, 2021 at 2:24 am

    No, but you’re little C&P examiner with her Associates Degree writing down that you lie about everything, and that is why it is so hard for the VA to diagnose me? One of the doctors on the board of review wrote on my file that if he wasn’t on this board he could have me cured within weeks? I am supposed to overlook these, and try again. I am too damn embarrassed to be seen by anyone. My own family is starting to question whether I did anything in Desert Shield and Desert Storm now. It is almost like they patronize me when I remember anything, and tell them. My parents are in their late 70s, live 20 minutes away, and I haven’t seen them in almost two years. I am too damn embarrassed. But you want me to talk with these people? I had an altercation / argument with the person who took over as Director of the Diamond Clinic in Dallas. She wrote a statement that plainly showed she had never even opened my case file up at all. Yet her statements are what is seen when you open my file now. How is this legal to do this to us? I am embarrassed in the VA anymore, and that was the one place I felt comfortable at. I have not lied at any time when I have been in there. It serves me no purpose to lie. When I came in the Army in 1988, I was the oldest one in the platoon. I started to question whether or not I could make it. My back was killing me, my knees hurt, and shin splints. I came back from sick call with a restricted duty profile. My Drill Sergeants called me in the office. They explained that everyone is in pain, but we have to carry on until the mission is finished, and then there will be time to be taken care of. I graduated with the top honor of the Abrams’s Award, and went on the graduate at the top of every class taken in the military. My mission ended in 2000, and there is nobody here to help me. I am at my wit’s end. Who is there left to go see after I have been called a liar? She almost wrote it word for word out of the manual the VBA gives the C&P examiners. They state that the review board doesn’t just go by her input, but if she is the only one with a review in there? It makes me sick to my stomach to think that everything I was so proud of was taken from me that quick by a person who doesn’t even know me. Fifteen minutes took away not only 12 years of military service, but any dignity I had. I don’t even tell anyone I was ever in the Army anymore. Thank you so very much for all you do to us.


  2. Never ask for help again June 2, 2021 at 7:50 pm

    Asking for help from the military was the worst mistake I ever made. All their programs are just cover your ass and don’t actually help soldiers.

  3. SW May 28, 2021 at 4:34 pm

    Sounds commendable but I have to wonder how many Marines you helped to be forced out of the service because their commanders didn’t like them or had issues with them being in a career field dominated by the opposite gender. Example, a woman mechanic in a male dominated career field. Pretend she has severe mental health issues and get her booted WITHOUT giving her 100% disability. Social workers are not to be trusted.

  4. Ben Martinez May 28, 2021 at 1:21 pm

    Thank you for this important information. A relative of mine is a veteran, I agree with all you wrote, 100% on point.

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