Listen to “#11: PTSD Resources for Family Members” on Spreaker.

In this episode of PTSD Bytes, host Pearl McGee-Vincent discusses PTSD resources for family and loved ones with Dr. Steven Sayers, director of Coaching into Care and the Advanced Fellowship in Mental Illness at the Philadelphia VA.

Effects of PTSD on relationships

Veterans with PTSD may not want to talk about their experiences because they are trying to protect their loved ones. This can lead to a lack of closeness with family members, which means that these family members are less able to support the Veteran.

Talking about PTSD

Dr. Sayers encourages family members to talk to the Veteran about how he or she is feeling. Ask what they find stressful, and how they want to manage those situations. However, directly talking about traumatic experiences is more difficult and may best be discussed with a counselor or therapist first.

Coaching into Care

Coaching into Care is a VA service that provides phone support to friends and family of Veterans. The service helps loved ones find ways to have a productive and supportive conversations with a Veteran about seeking help. Call toll-free at 1-888-823-7458 or visit the Coaching into Care website.

Helping a Veteran who has PTSD

Some common signs that a person needs help are being uncomfortable and avoiding situations, such as large crowds, or increased alcohol or drug use. Dr. Sayers says that you, as a family member, can have an effective conversation with the Veteran in your life by: (1) expressing your willingness to help, (2) stating your concern and (3) asking what the Veteran believes could be a solution.

How to find professional help

To help a Veteran with PTSD get professional care, you can talk together with his or her VA primary care provider about a referral. Coaching into Care can also help find referrals in your community for the Veteran as well as resources and support for yourself.

Other resources

Additional resources family members and other loved ones might find useful:

Additional Links

If you are a Veteran who is experiencing a crisis or supporting a loved one who is, call 1-800-273-8255 and press 1 for immediate assistance, or chat online at

By Alexandra Kaiser is a writing intern for VA’s Digital Media Engagement team

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Published on Jun. 7, 2022

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